Why Are So Many Teens Leaving the Church?

Why Are So Many Teens Leaving the Church?


I am broken-hearted, burdened, and distressed. So many times have I seen this happen. Too many times has this happened to close family friends. The world is on the look-out. Satan is stalking his prey, looking for the next weak human to devour. The urgency in which I address this issue is overwhelming.

Growing up in a Bible teaching and Bible believing church, you would expect all church kids to grow up into blessed servants of Jesus Christ. Kids who would eventually become the foundation of the next church generation. The next missionaries and evangelists.

I strongly desire for this future to happen, but I have seen the numbers of children attending church slowly dim away. It seems that out of the 60 kids who grew up in the church, only five remain in God’s ministry.

I look around at world events. The Supreme Court’s decision on gay marriage. The fight for life in the de-funding of Planned Parenthood. The increasing amount of charismatic believers looking for the “newest proclamation of God.” The world is getting worse, and will continue to become worse until Jesus’ coming.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

“But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive,disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”

Evil has been replaced with good and all that is good is hated just like the Bible says in 2 Timothy 3. The fight for souls, especially your children’s souls, is expanding. Just going to church on Sundays is not good enough! We HAVE to put up our defenses EVERY DAY OF THE WEEK! We must keep His Word in our hearts.

Deuteronomy 6:6-9

“6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

If you do not put up your guard, the devil will infiltrate your walls! Christ must become the priority in your family’s life. Sports, concerts, electronics, friends, school, work, should not come first. I see so many parents who let their children get away with not going to Sunday School or church. Nowadays, it is wrong to contradict your child and parents think they are here to be their child’s best friend.

I can tell you this, my mom is not my best friend. Sure I confide with her in everything, but her role is not to make life as fun as possible for me. Her job was to discipline and instruct me, to prepare me for going out in the world on my own, to face the evil that surrounds me by depending on Christ. Sometimes, she has to say no to my whining for my own good.

If you replace the importance of church with the importance of making a basketball, baseball or any other sport’s game on Sunday , you are diminishing the importance of Christ. No wonder so many high schoolers leave the church once they graduate, both home-schooled AND public schooled AND private schooled. Christ is no longer a priority for families.

Now, I’m not saying that every person who has had a child that has left the church didn’t place Christ first in their family. I know a couple of families who have diligently trained their children in God’s word. This world is privy to evil and sadly there will be ones that hear of Christ who will flat out deny Him. But, in order to give your children the best chances of coming to Christ, you must teach them EARLY ON to go to Christ. Before you know it, they will be grown up and heading to college facing all the ideals in this world that replace evil for good.

Christ should be the first thing they see, hear, and take in. NOT that love is love and it doesn’t matter which sex you are attracted to, or that divorcing your husband is okay if you don’t love him anymore.

Prepare for battle, guard your hearts, set your priorities straight, and cherish God’s Word. Engrave the fear of God into your children and persevere in Christ as we all face the biggest battle ever fought! Souls, not lives, are on the line!

I recommend for further interest in this subject, to go to Answers in Genesis’ article Already Gone. This is only the first chapter of the book, Already Gone, by Kenn Hamm and Brit Beemer. I have only read this first chapter, but I would love for any of you who wish to continue on in the book and tell me what you think! In just this first chapter, they capture, in much better words than I have written, how big the problem is that we are facing with children.

Please pass on the urgency of the matter to your church family and make praying for your ‘s and others’ children the top of your prayer list this week.




2 thoughts on “Why Are So Many Teens Leaving the Church?

  1. You are so right! We need to teach our children about God and Jesus in the home every day. Sundays are not enough at all.

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